Why do I shut down when I'm upset?

Shutting down emotions can be a normal part of human experience, as a coping strategy in stressful situations. Under high stress, it allows your body and brain to protect itself from perceived threats or harm.
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Why do I completely shut down when upset?

For some people, shutting down emotionally is a response to feeling overstimulated. It doesn't have anything to do with you or how they feel about you. If your husband or partner shuts down when you cry, for example, it may be because they don't know the best way to handle that display of emotions.
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What causes emotional shutdown?

Depression and anxiety are two of the most common causes. Severe levels of acute elevated stress or nervousness can also trigger feelings of emotional numbness. Post-traumatic stress disorder, which can be tied to depression and anxiety, can cause you to feel numb, too. Some medications can also cause numbness.
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Why do I shut down when I am stressed?

When our sympathetic nervous system has kicked into overdrive, and we still can't escape and feel impending death the dorsal vagal parasympathetic nervous system takes control. It causes freezing or shutdown, as a form of self preservation. (Think of someone who passes out under extreme stress.)
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How do I stop emotional shutdown?

What to Do When Someone You Love Shuts Down
  1. Be present and remember that their Avoidance likely has little to do with you.
  2. Provide a safe space and remind them that you are available.
  3. Keep your promise; be available.
  4. Put your judgment in the backseat.
  5. Actively listen.
  6. Provide abundant reassurance.
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Why People Shut Down



Is shutting down a trauma response?

So, you know that you go into freeze, shutdown, disconnection, dissociation, collapse or seizure as a result of Trauma.
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Is shutting down a coping mechanism?

Shutting down emotions can be a normal part of human experience, as a coping strategy in stressful situations. Under high stress, it allows your body and brain to protect itself from perceived threats or harm.
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What is the 3 stages of stress?

There are three stages to stress: the alarm stage, the resistance stage and the exhaustion stage. The alarm stage is when the central nervous system is awakened, causing your body's defenses to assemble. This SOS stage results in a fight-or-flight response.
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What is emotional overload?

Emotional overload often comes from having conflicting feelings, too many feelings happening at once, or not being able to act based on your gut feelings. We have emotions for a reason – they're there to tell us something. Ignoring those feelings doesn't make them go away.
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What is emotional disconnection?

Emotional detachment is a psychological condition in which a person is not able to fully engage with their feelings or the feelings of others. It can be ongoing, as it is in people with attachment disorders, or it can be a temporary response to an extreme situation.
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What are signs of emotional detachment?

Symptoms
  • Ambivalence toward others.
  • Avoiding people, situations, or activities.
  • Difficulty empathizing with others.
  • Difficulty opening up to other people.
  • Feeling disconnected from other people.
  • Losing interest in people and activities.
  • Losing touch with people.
  • Not paying attention to other people.
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What is shutdown dissociation?

Shutdown dissociation includes partial or complete functional sensory deafferentiation, classified as negative dissociative symptoms (see Nijenhuis, 2014; Van Der Hart et al., 2004). The Shut-D focuses exclusively on symptoms according to the evolutionary-based concept of shutdown dissociative responding.
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Can anxiety make you shut down?

A little anxiety can encourage you to act, while intense or prolonged anxiety can cause you to shut down. A few signs you're experiencing an anxiety attack include: Increased heart rate. Shortness of breath.
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Why do I shut down when arguing?

So, look through the reasons you may shut down and see which one resonates with you. You feel like you're not being heard. You feel like the topic being discussed is just a small part of a much larger problem, which is overwhelming to talk about. You're afraid of opening Pandora's box.
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What is emotional stonewalling?

Stonewalling is, well, what it sounds like. In a discussion or argument, the listener withdraws from the interaction, shutting down and closing themselves off from the speaker because they are feeling overwhelmed or physiologically flooded. Metaphorically speaking, they build a wall between them and their partner.
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What are the 5 signs of emotional suffering?

Know the 5 signs of Emotional Suffering
  • Personality change in a way that seems different for that person.
  • Agitation or displaying anger, anxiety or moodiness.
  • Withdrawal or isolation from others.
  • Poor self-care and perhaps engaging in risky behavior.
  • Hopelessness, or feelings of being overwhelmed and worthless.
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What does emotional exhaustion feel like?

People experiencing emotional exhaustion often feel like they have no power or control over what happens in life. They may feel “stuck” or “trapped” in a situation. Lack of energy, poor sleep, and decreased motivation can make it difficult to overcome emotional exhaustion.
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What are 4 different signs of stress overload?

Signs of stress overload
  • Anxiety or panic attacks.
  • A feeling of being constantly pressured, hassled and hurried.
  • Irritability and moodiness.
  • Physical symptoms, such as stomach problems, headaches, or even chest pain.
  • Allergic reactions, such as eczema or asthma.
  • Problems sleeping.
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What are two warning signs of stress?

Warnings signs of stress in adults may include:
  • Crying spells or bursts of anger.
  • Difficulty eating.
  • Losing interest in daily activities.
  • Increasing physical distress symptoms such as headaches or stomach pains.
  • Fatigue.
  • Feeling guilty, helpless, or hopeless.
  • Avoiding family and friends.
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What are the key signs of stress affecting mental health?

Headaches, dizziness or shaking. High blood pressure. Muscle tension or jaw clenching. Stomach or digestive problems.
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Stress can lead to emotional and mental symptoms like:
  • Anxiety or irritability.
  • Depression.
  • Panic attacks.
  • Sadness.
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What is last stage of stress?

Exhaustion stage

This stage is the result of prolonged or chronic stress. Struggling with stress for long periods can drain your physical, emotional, and mental resources to the point where your body no longer has strength to fight stress. You may give up or feel your situation is hopeless.
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Can depression make you shut down?

Depression can cause us to experience outbursts and mood swings. One minute we're angry, the next we're crying uncontrollably or we shut down and go numb. Changes in our mood can switch in a moment's notice.
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What's a nervous breakdown?

The term "nervous breakdown" is sometimes used by people to describe a stressful situation in which they're temporarily unable to function normally in day-to-day life. It's commonly understood to occur when life's demands become physically and emotionally overwhelming.
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What are the 6 trauma responses?

In the most extreme situations, you might have lapses of memory or “lost time.” Schauer & Elbert (2010) refer to the stages of trauma responses as the 6 “F”s: Freeze, Flight, Fight, Fright, Flag, and Faint.
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What are the 5 trauma responses?

The 'fight or flight' response is how people sometimes refer to our body's automatic reactions to fear.
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