What do Enneagram 9s struggle with?

They struggle to believe their voice or opinion matters. They would rather just go along with what others think and feel rather than impose their will on others. They do this to create a sense of harmony, but unfortunately it also causes them to lose sight of what they really want.
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What are the weaknesses of an Enneagram 9?

Enneagram 9 Weaknesses
  • Difficulty facing personal conflict with others.
  • Tendency to minimize problems.
  • Avoiding difficult or upsetting situations.
  • Being passive aggressive rather than addressing conflict.
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What does an Enneagram 9 stress to?

Type 9 Under Stress

Average to unhealthy traits of 6 include: becoming anxious, suspicious of others, overcommitted, worried, self-doubting, and defensive. Type 9s can use their stress number in healthy ways by making use of the healthier traits of 6.
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What do Enneagram 9s fear?

Deepest Fear: Nines fear being too needy and thus pushing people away. They cope with this fear by submitting to the desires and agendas of the people around them: being agreeable in order to be included.
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What drains an Enneagram 9?

Despite their ability to mediate in conflict situations, Nines dislike connecting with their own anger. Anger is an emotionally draining experience for Nines, who often take a while to notice that they are upset. They, therefore, don't allow themselves to experience anger too often or too intensely.
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Enneagram: Help For Type 9



What makes an Enneagram 9 angry?

In general, 8s, 9s, and 1s — the body type — tend to get angry when they see injustice, and when they feel like people are trying to control them, but this is expressed in different ways.
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Are type 9s lazy?

The emotional drive of type 9 is called sloth which refers to a sense of inertia or laziness particularly with regard to yourself and your priorities or agenda.
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What does a healthy 9 look like?

Healthy Nines let go of a forced peace. They are patient, humble, honest, optimistic, and uncomplicated. Their quiet strength is reassuring to others. They can easily see and relate to other points of view because they are not attached to any one of them.
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What wings can a 9 have?

Your wing adds an additional flavor to your personality. Every personality type of the Enneagram can have either one of the two types next to them as their wing. For Nines this means that they can have a wing Eight (also known as Enneagram 9w8) or a wing One (Enneagram 9w1). Below you find descriptions for each wing.
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How do you make an Enneagram 9 feel loved?

Don't take too personally: Their tendency to be overly nice or flattering. To create rapport: Step forward to make contact; give approval or appreciation. Try to avoid: Hurting their feelings by being too critical or not taking them seriously. Join them: In valuing warmth, personal contact and partnership.
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What Enneagram should a 9 marry?

Type Nines commonly pair well with Ones, Twos.

In a Nine-One partnership, Ones hugely benefit from the easygoing nature of the Nine.
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What are Enneagram 9s like?

Type Nine in Brief

Nines are accepting, trusting, and stable. They are usually creative, optimistic, and supportive, but can also be too willing to go along with others to keep the peace.
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Is Type 9 Enneagram rare?

What is the rarest Enneagram? According to an Enneagram Population Distribution study, the rarest Enneagram is Type 8: The Challenger. Next comes the Investigator (Type 5), followed by the Helper (Type 2). The most common is the Peacemaker (Type 9).
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Are Enneagram 9s loyal?

Enneagram Type 9 and 3

Nines are incredibly loyal and will stand behind their partner even in the face of failure. In return, the Three helps the Nine to be more Self-confidence. Both types do not like conflict and keep their relationship harmonious.
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What is the strongest Enneagram type?

Bringing everyone to the table and letting others be heard is the superpower of Type 9s, which makes them the most powerful type in the Enneagram.
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How do you become friends with Enneagram 9?

Enneagram Nine Friendship Needs
  1. Don't get pushy, nagging, or micro-managing with Nines. ...
  2. If you notice them always going along with what other people want to do, encourage them to share their individual interests and desires.
  3. Be a good listener to them.
  4. Understand that it tends to take them a long time to make decisions.
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Are type 9s introverts?

Many Nines are introverts, in truth. They need to be, to keep themselves insulated from a world where chaos is ever present. Even when they're social and active, a part of them are kept in reserve. They are likeable, steady, tolerant and optimistic, but don't ask a Nine about their real feelings.
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Are 9w1 creative?

What is an Enneagram type 9 wing 1 (The Negotiator)? People with an enneagram type nine wing one personality tend to identify more with the type nine, but also share several traits with the one type. They are hardworking, creative, and friendly in their behavior.
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What does an Enneagram 9 integrate to?

Rather than revert to Six, Nines should integrate to Three. When they do this, they start to develop their talents and skills. They move from being withdrawn and numb to being motivated and inner-directed. Instead of living through other people, they assert themselves properly and go after their dreams.
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How common is Enneagram 9?

Type 3, Type 6, and Type 9 all ranked above average (11.11%) in the surveyed population, with Type 9 being the most common Enneagram type.
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Are 9s procrastinators?

Dear Nines, with your easy-going personalities and peace-making skills, nines are arguably the best team players on the Enneagram. You often procrastinate when it comes to assignments, but this isn't because you're lazy or opposed to hard work.
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Are Enneagram 9s passive-aggressive?

1. They become passive-aggressive. Passive-aggressive behavior and “negative implementation” are classic tools Type 9s use to stand their ground and yet still avoid conflict. They may agree to do something they never intend to do.
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How do you deal with Enneagram 9?

As you can see from the image above there are some basics that you can try to remember when it comes to getting along with Enneagram type 9s:
  1. Encourage 9s to name their own desires and wishes. ...
  2. Try to focus on what they do and opposed to what they forget to do.
  3. 9s need alone time and independence.
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