How do you spot a quiet borderline?

What are the symptoms of quiet BPD?
  1. mood swings that can last for as little as a few hours, or up to a few days, but no one else can see them.
  2. suppressing feelings of anger or denying that you feel angry.
  3. withdrawing when you're upset.
  4. avoiding talking to others who have upset you and cutting them off instead.
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What are people with quiet BPD like?

For example, while a person with typical BPD might show outward signs of rage, a person with quiet BPD might turn that rage inward and engage in self destructive behaviors. Similarly, a person with typical BPD might have crying fits or throw tantrums, while someone with quiet BPD will become moody and withdrawn.
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What is it like to live with quiet BPD?

Living with quiet borderline personality disorder can be exhausting and incredibly debilitating. It can stop a person from being able to enjoy their everyday life, as they struggle to cope with the intense thoughts and emotions that they experience.
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What is quiet BPD?

Quiet BPD, sometimes referred to as high-functioning BPD, is not an official diagnosis. It's used to describe people who meet the criteria for BPD but whose symptoms don't manifest in the typical, overt way associated with BPD.
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What triggers quiet BPD?

Some potential causes of quiet BPD may be the result of: Family history of various personality disorders. History of other mental health conditions (anxiety disorders, bipolar disorder, eating disorders, substance abuse, depression, etc.) History of neglect, abuse, trauma, or abandonment in childhood.
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How to Spot the 4 Types of Borderline Personality Disorder



How can you tell if a woman is borderline?

Recognizing Borderline Personality Disorder in Yourself—or Others
  1. Instability in Relationships. Intense and short-lived relationships are common for people with BPD. ...
  2. Extreme Emotional Swings. ...
  3. Explosive Feelings of Anger. ...
  4. Self-Harm. ...
  5. Lingering Feelings of Emptiness or Worthlessness. ...
  6. Feeling Out of Touch With Reality.
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How do you know if your borderline is lying?

Here are a few of the issues at the root of lying in BPD.
  1. Intense Emotions. People with BPD experience intense emotions that they can't regulate; this often distorts their perceptions. ...
  2. Impulsivity. ...
  3. Shame. ...
  4. Distorted Self-Perceptions. ...
  5. Rejection Sensitivity. ...
  6. Romantic Relationships.
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Who is attracted to borderline personality?

Borderline/dependent: A person with borderline personality disorder (BPD) is well-matched with a person who has a dependent personality disorder (DPD). The BPD has an intense fear of abandonment which is a good match for the DPD who will not leave even a dysfunctional relationship.
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What does high functioning BPD look like?

Impulsive and risky behaviors (perhaps around spending, eating, driving, gambling, or other areas of life) Relationships suffering—with family, friends, significant others, and coworkers. Isolation. Worsening co-occurring mental health disorders.
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What can BPD be confused with?

Some symptoms of BPD can be very similar to other mental health problems, including:
  • bipolar disorder.
  • complex post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
  • depression.
  • psychosis.
  • antisocial personality disorder (ASPD)
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What does undiagnosed BPD look like?

Men and women with borderline personality disorder tend to have severely distorted images of themselves; they feel worthless and terribly flawed. Due to the anger, impulsiveness, and frequent mood swings exhibited, individuals with this disorder often push others away, even if they desire long-lasting relationships.
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Is hypersexuality a symptom of BPD?

As a symptom

Some people with borderline personality disorder (sometimes referred to as BPD) can be markedly impulsive, seductive, and extremely sexual. Sexual promiscuity, sexual obsessions, and hypersexuality are very common symptoms for both men and women with BPD.
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Do borderlines fall in love easily?

People with BPD tend to have relationships that are intense and short-lived. You may fall in love quickly, believing that each new person is the one who will make you feel whole, only to be quickly disappointed. Your relationships either seem perfect or horrible, without any middle ground.
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Do borderlines have narcissistic traits?

Nearly 40% of those with borderline personality disorder also have narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). A person can have one disorder and traits of the other as well. It helps to understand their similarities and differences.
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Do borderlines have empathy?

Previous research has demonstrated that patients with borderline personality disorder (BPD) are more sensitive to negative emotions and often show poor cognitive empathy, yet preserved or even superior emotional empathy. However, little is known about the neural correlates of empathy.
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Are borderlines aware of their behavior?

People with borderline personality disorders are aware of their behaviors and the consequences of them and often act in increasingly erratic ways as a self-fulfilling prophecy to their abandonment fears.
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Can you trust someone with BPD?

People who suffer from BPD show erratic mood-swings and find it difficult to trust and understand the motives of others. As a result, they suffer from fraught personal relationships with friends, colleagues and partners.
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Do borderlines feel remorse?

Often it seems as though there is no remorse or regret when someone with borderline intentionally, or unintentionally, hurt someone they love. They say cruel things, act in cruel ways, and can cause real harm to themselves or to others. When called on it, they will act with little remorse or regret.
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Can someone with quiet BPD love?

Myth: Having BPD means you can't maintain good relationships

However, “That doesn't mean you can't have them or that they won't be successful,” notes Silvert. So there's no need to feel disheartened. “Loads of my patients who have borderline personality disorder or who have recovered have great relationships.”
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How long do borderline episodes last?

These experiences often result in impulsive actions and unstable relationships. A person with BPD may experience intense episodes of anger, depression, and anxiety that may last from only a few hours to days.”
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