How do you become friends with Enneagram 9?

How do you get along with a 9 Enneagram?

What Enneagram type is most compatible with 9?

Type Sixes commonly pair well with Nines.

Type Sixes are known as the Loyalists of the Enneagram.

What are Enneagram 9s attracted to?

Enneagram 9s in Romantic Relationships

Type 9s tend to be wallflowers, and potential romantic prospects may be drawn to flashier, more gregarious types initially. However, once people get to know Type 9s, they're attracted to their calm, caring personalities.

What does an Enneagram 9 need to hear?

The gifts of the Enneagram Nine include:

Understanding: Nines are able to listen to differences and understand multiple perspectives, with a great skill in synthesis and finding commonalities across differences.

Top 10 Ways to Love an Enneagram Type Nine

How do you make an Enneagram 9 feel loved?

Don't take too personally: Their tendency to be overly nice or flattering. To create rapport: Step forward to make contact; give approval or appreciation. Try to avoid: Hurting their feelings by being too critical or not taking them seriously. Join them: In valuing warmth, personal contact and partnership.

What makes an Enneagram 9 angry?

In general, 8s, 9s, and 1s — the body type — tend to get angry when they see injustice, and when they feel like people are trying to control them, but this is expressed in different ways.

How does an Enneagram 9 flirt?

Nine's often flirt by showing that they are there for the person they care about. They give their support and will do just about anything to make them happy or see them smile.

What makes a type 9 happy?

Nines need simplicity, peace, harmony and to be appreciated. Because they are highly empathetic, they need to know that the people around them are relaxed in order for them to be able to relax. To truly be at ease, Nines need to have their creature comforts and are unwilling go without them.

Which Enneagrams make the best friends?

Not to favor one number over the others, but Enneagram-type Twos make excellent friends. As the hosts and helpers of the group, they enjoy caring for people and are naturally intuitive to the needs of others.

What is the most difficult Enneagram type?

Enneagram Type Fours are self-aware, sensitive and reserved, and they may be the hardest type to understand. They are deeply in touch with their own emotions, as well as empathetic and understanding of others' feelings. To anyone who isn't a Four, they can seem distant, unsociable and moody.

Which Enneagram is the most romantic?

Strengths: Type Nines are often called the "darling" of the Enneagram, says Hall.

What does a 9 go to in stress?

When moving in their Direction of Disintegration (stress), complacent Nines suddenly become anxious and worried at Six. However, when moving in their Direction of Integration (growth), slothful, self-neglecting Nines become more self-developing and energetic, like healthy Threes.

Is Enneagram 9 passive aggressive?

It's in their nature to promote harmony and a sense of unity in their world. They have peace of mind because they know they are living with dignity and respecting themselves and others. At their worst, Nines can be passive-aggressive, spiteful, and disconnected from their true nature.

What does a healthy 9 look like?

Healthy Nines let go of a forced peace. They are patient, humble, honest, optimistic, and uncomplicated. Their quiet strength is reassuring to others. They can easily see and relate to other points of view because they are not attached to any one of them.

What wings can a 9 have?

Your wing adds an additional flavor to your personality. Every personality type of the Enneagram can have either one of the two types next to them as their wing. For Nines this means that they can have a wing Eight (also known as Enneagram 9w8) or a wing One (Enneagram 9w1). Below you find descriptions for each wing.

What do Enneagram 9s struggle with?

They struggle to believe their voice or opinion matters. They would rather just go along with what others think and feel rather than impose their will on others. They do this to create a sense of harmony, but unfortunately it also causes them to lose sight of what they really want.

What do Enneagram 9s fear?

Deepest Fear: Nines fear being too needy and thus pushing people away. They cope with this fear by submitting to the desires and agendas of the people around them: being agreeable in order to be included.

Are Enneagram 9 introverts?

Many Nines are introverts, in truth. They need to be, to keep themselves insulated from a world where chaos is ever present. Even when they're social and active, a part of them are kept in reserve. They are likeable, steady, tolerant and optimistic, but don't ask a Nine about their real feelings.

What stresses out Enneagram 9?

Type 9 Under Stress

Average to unhealthy traits of 6 include: becoming anxious, suspicious of others, overcommitted, worried, self-doubting, and defensive. Type 9s can use their stress number in healthy ways by making use of the healthier traits of 6.

How do you relieve a stressed Enneagram 9?

Where do Enneagram 9s go in stress?

Stressed Nines take on the troubled aspect of a six, not trusting their own minds and minimizing any confidence in their decisions. Where Nines are typically optimistic and creative, these changes cut them off from their own power and make it even more difficult to rise out of the hole they slowly dig themselves in.

Which Enneagram is the rarest?

According to an Enneagram Population Distribution study, the rarest Enneagram is Type 8: The Challenger. Next comes the Investigator (Type 5), followed by the Helper (Type 2). The most common is the Peacemaker (Type 9).

What is the most common Enneagram?

Enneagram Type 9 is the most common personality type according to studies performed by Truity and other reputable enneagram sources.

Can your Enneagram change?

Myth: Your Enneagram number can change

The Enneagram doesn't change, and neither does our core number (sometimes called our basic type). Neither can we choose our number. According to Enneagram teachers, we get our number during childhood, and our core fear and desire stem from our earliest experiences.