Does BPD return after no contact?

I'd say 99% of times people have got away for good it's because of NC and just the BPD being unable to contact them. I've read of BPD exes attempting recycles after 7 years of no contact. Of course every individual case is different but being painted Permenantly black seems rare.
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Does no contact work on borderlines?

"No Contact" is mostly about the non-borderline forcing "distance" into the relationship to help the non-borderline heal; to get the "space" needed to get over the hurt; get on with their lives. to stop obsessing with how they are reacting (or not reacting) or what they are doing.
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Do BPD people ever come back?

Some BPDs come back and do the recycle thing and some are gone for ever. They are not predictable. In time your longing for her will subside and in even more time you won't want this.
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Can BPD go away and come back?

Awareness of the course of BPD is one effective way of reducing stigma against the diagnosis. Although the course of BPD is generally positive, some patients do experience relapses over time. Most of the specialized treatments for BPD are time-limited and generally of 1 to 3 years' duration.
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Do borderlines push you away?

As a result, the fear of being abandoned often causes people with BPD to form unhealthy attachments, cut off loved ones, and make frantic attempts to hold onto relationships. These overly intense or erratic behaviors, in turn, often push loved ones away.
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Why do BPD go silent?

While there are no specific causes that would result in quiet BPD vs. typical BPD, it's likely that one's personality or temperament influences how the disorder manifests in terms of outward symptoms or inward symptoms.
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Why do BPD end relationships?

BPD splitting destroys relationships because the behaviour can be impulsive or reckless in order to alleviate the pain, often hurting loved ones in the process. It can feel like everyone abandons or hurts them, often causing them to look for evidence, and creating problems from nothing.
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How long does BPD episode last?

These experiences often result in impulsive actions and unstable relationships. A person with BPD may experience intense episodes of anger, depression, and anxiety that may last from only a few hours to days.”
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How do you make someone with BPD feel loved?

The following 9 strategies can help you support a person with BPD:
  1. Learn about BPD. ...
  2. Show confidence and respect. ...
  3. Be trustworthy. ...
  4. Manage conflict with attachment. ...
  5. Encourage Professional Help. ...
  6. Identify strengths. ...
  7. Have fun together. ...
  8. Take suicide seriously.
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How do you stop a borderline episode?

If you suffer from borderline personality disorder, here are some ways to help cope with the symptoms that can lead to or trigger an episode:
  1. Take a warm shower or bath.
  2. Play music that relaxes you.
  3. Engage in a physical activity.
  4. Do brain teasers or problem-solving activities.
  5. Talk to a sympathetic loved one.
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How do BPD cope with breakups?

Because people with BPD have an intense fear of abandonment, a breakup can leave them feeling desperate and devastated. This is why it's a good idea to have a support network for you and partner, especially if a breakup may occur. This network often includes a mental health professional.
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Do borderlines Hoover?

Individuals suffering from personality disorders such as borderline personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder generally hoover on their victims.
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Do borderlines regret the loss of a quality partner?

People with BPD may be sensitive to rejection and abandonment and are prone to splitting, rage, and impulsivity. If a person with BPD feels rejected or abandoned, they may end the relationship. However, this is usually followed by significant anxiety and regret and efforts to get back together.
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Should I reach out to someone with BPD?

Be Responsive. When a person with BPD is trying to reach out or contact you, it's helpful to be as responsive as possible. If a friend or loved one doesn't respond, a person with BPD can feel rejected and internalize that as something being “wrong” with them.
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Should you leave someone with BPD?

Enable the person with BPD by protecting them from the consequences of their actions. If your loved one won't respect your boundaries and continues to make you feel unsafe, then you may need to leave. It doesn't mean you don't love them, but your self-care should always take priority.
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How do you tell if a borderline loves you?

Loving Someone With BPD — Can They Love You Back?
  1. The person quickly feeling smothered.
  2. Sudden withdrawal.
  3. Fear of intimacy.
  4. Frequent lying.
  5. Impulsive and aggressive sexuality.
  6. Public outbursts and arguments.
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Who are BPD attracted to?

Borderline/dependent: A person with borderline personality disorder (BPD) is well-matched with a person who has a dependent personality disorder (DPD). The BPD has an intense fear of abandonment which is a good match for the DPD who will not leave even a dysfunctional relationship.
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How do you know if your borderline is lying?

Here are a few of the issues at the root of lying in BPD.
  1. Intense Emotions. People with BPD experience intense emotions that they can't regulate; this often distorts their perceptions. ...
  2. Impulsivity. ...
  3. Shame. ...
  4. Distorted Self-Perceptions. ...
  5. Rejection Sensitivity. ...
  6. Romantic Relationships.
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What triggers a borderline episode?

Separations, disagreements, and rejections—real or perceived—are the most common triggers for symptoms. A person with BPD is highly sensitive to abandonment and being alone, which brings about intense feelings of anger, fear, suicidal thoughts and self-harm, and very impulsive decisions.
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Do BPD know they split?

Care and Management of BPD Splitting

Remember that splitting is a symptom of borderline personality disorder - while it can be difficult not to take their words and actions personally, remember that the person is not intentionally trying to hurt you.
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Can a person with BPD revalue someone?

It's common with borderline personality disorder for a person to idealize a friend, family member, or loved one. They feel intense closeness towards that person and place them on a pedestal. This can quickly and unpredictably change to intense anger toward that person, a process called devaluation.
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What happens when you abandon a BPD?

For people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), abandonment is something to be avoided at all costs. When a person with BPD feels abandoned, it can have a serious effect on their self-image and behavior, as well as their ability to maintain relationships.
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Can a BPD relationship last?

With treatment and continual support from family and partners, people with BPD can have successful relationships. Read on to find out how it's possible and what you can do if you or your partner has BPD.
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Do borderlines fall in love easily?

People with BPD tend to have relationships that are intense and short-lived. You may fall in love quickly, believing that each new person is the one who will make you feel whole, only to be quickly disappointed. Your relationships either seem perfect or horrible, without any middle ground.
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