Why do we Overshare trauma?

Many of the roots are similar to why we tend to over-explain, which I described briefly above. Sometimes oversharing is also the result of a misguided attempt to gain sympathy. If you share your mistakes to help others, you are being authentic; if you share too much to gain sympathy, then you are oversharing.

What is oversharing a symptom of?

Oversharing happens because of ADHD symptoms like impulsivity.

Why is oversharing a coping mechanism?

Experts say oversharing often happens when we are trying subconsciously to control our own anxiety. This effort is known as "self regulation" and here is how it works: When having a conversation, we can use up a lot of mental energy trying to manage the other person's impression of us.

Why do people trauma dumping?

A person who trauma dumps is unconsciously seeking people who have a stronger than average need to be liked or to please others. This need arises—again often unconsciously—from a fear of being rejected or of being unloveable.

What is considered trauma dumping?

Sharing trauma without permission, in an inappropriate place and time, to someone who may not have the capacity to process it. That's trauma dumping. It's become so commonplace on social media, our kids may have come to accept it as normal.

Oversharing: Psychology Behind Revealing Personal Details

What is toxic venting?

What is Toxic Venting? Toxic venting feels like an attack on someone's character. Whether you are the one venting, or you're listening to someone else do it, this communication makes the other person out to be “the bad guy.” This type of bad-mouthing becomes an intense form of gossip.

Is trauma dumping toxic?

“Trauma dumping without warning or permission can have a toxic and adverse effect on relationships,” explains Fraser. “Sharing deeply personal information can be very uncomfortable for the listener and leave them unsure how to respond. It can also trigger their own trauma, without allowing them space to navigate it.”

How can you tell if someone is trauma dumping?

One of the most distinct signs of trauma dumping is a swift move toward extremely dark and deep content — without permission or warning. Your friend or loved one might start the conversation by talking about a minor hurt, but it may quickly dissolve into trauma or upset.

What is the difference between venting and trauma dumping?

When we talk about trauma dumping vs venting, trauma dumping can be defined as unaware dumping of experiences that can affect others' mental health whereas venting is a process where you are aware of what you're expressing.

Can talking about trauma make it worse?

Everything. Talking about the trauma, even just trying to put what happened into words, can actually worsen a victim's trauma by re-activating it in the brain, and embedding it deeper.

Why is oversharing a red flag?

Oversharing doesn't create intimacy. Oversharing is self-absorption masked as vulnerability. This may also signal emotional neediness and/or lack of boundaries.

Is oversharing manipulative?

Manipulators will try to be the center of attention and make sure that everyone knows how they feel. They start with oversharing and then suck you into their hole of emotions. They probably do this because they feel that they lessened the pressure on themselves when they share it with their environment.

Is trauma dumping manipulative?

Trauma dumping is unsolicited, toxic oversharing. Trauma dumping is manipulative and abusive, not "sharing." TikTok and other social media platforms have become popular dumping grounds. Alternative coping skills can protect friendships and improve mental health.

What mental illness is oversharing?

Bipolar Disorder, The Urge to Overshare, and Avoiding Rejection.

What type of person Overshares?

06/9​They are narcissistic

If a person is a narcissist, or they feel inadequate, they often end up sharing everything that comes to mind to make sure they are heard. The insecurity of feeling ignored or too much self-validation overpowers their ability to decide what to share or not.

What are the danger of oversharing?

Why is oversharing risky? By posting personal details you could make it easier for criminals to learn important information about you. For example: Posting photos from the trip you're currently on could alert criminals that you're currently out of town.

What can you do instead of trauma dumping?

Try to think of what you'd want to hear from someone else after telling them about your experiences, and repeat it to yourself instead. Own your feelings. Before you start word-vomiting at someone else, take some time to go inward and really understand and cope with your feelings. Seek professional help.

What is an emotional Dumpster?

Jessie Shepherd, LCMHC, says an "Emotional Dumpster" is: someone who is a great listener, gives great advice, but has a hard time balancing the energy they give to others, resulting in burn out. She says while you are helping others, you also need to set up boundaries so you are taking care of yourself as well.

How do you stop a trauma dumper?

Tips to Avoid Trauma Dumping

Journals are a safe place to express your negative emotions. Practice mindfulness or meditation. It alleviates stress and changes your perspective, often making problems seem more managable. Engage in some form of physical activity.

What are generational trauma patterns?

It can also be referred to as transgenerational or multigenerational trauma. People experiencing intergenerational trauma may experience symptoms, reactions, patterns, and emotional and psychological effects from trauma experienced by previous generations (not limited to just parents or grandparents).

How do you know if someone is emotionally draining?

Signs of Emotionally Draining Friendships. People who are surrounded by drama, constantly complaining, or are an emotional wreck may be all around you. They are the ones who seem to suck the energy out of you and leave you feeling emotionally drained anytime you talk on the phone or spend time together.

Is ranting a coping mechanism?

Why Venting. One of the main reasons why we vent is to reduce our stress levels. Rime (2009) states that disclosing stress is a coping mechanism. Venting is a 2-way process: the person venting and the person hearing the vent.

When does venting become too much?

You feel bonded and connected to people during and after venting, but if you vent too much, you can be perceived as too dramatic or negative. Colleagues and loved ones might begin to avoid you because they now associate you with stress and negativity.

Is oversharing a trauma response?

Oversharing is a habit many of us experience from time to time, particularly during seasons of great emotional stress or trauma. Oversharing is a coping mechanism, a trauma response, and also a habit that can negatively affect our reputation and our relationships.

What's the difference between being vulnerable and oversharing?

Vulnerability is a quality that brings people closer together and leaves them feeling more connected. Oversharing does the opposite. It's an uncomfortable and unsatisfying experience for both parties.